What to do w/ a swollen upper eyelid?

Sounds like a stye in ur eye to me Wich is basically an ingrown eye lash if I'm not mistaken. They wont always be red. A good thing for that is a hot tea bag. I usually heat a cup of hot water and dunk the tea bag in it and let it sit in my eye until its not hot anymore just don't make it too hot to where it scolds you. Make it hot enough to stand but not burn. This helps with the swelling and discomfort. Hope this helps. Even if its not a stye it will still help with swelling ad discomfort.